What It Takes to Raise SIX Kids and be a CEO | Tobi Emonts-Holley (father of 6, CEO of Tiphereth)

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Tobi Emonts-Holley is the CEO of Tiphereth where he started as a volunteer nearly 18 years ago. Tiphereth is an Edinburgh-based community for adults with learning disabilities and other support needs. He also holds a PhD in Economics. Most importantly (and impressively) Tobi and his wife are the parents of six children!

In this episode we discuss:

• Tobi's early journey leaving his home and moving to Edinburgh at a young age

• The joys and challenges of raising six unique kids

• Tobi's philosophy on fatherhood, including why memories trump possessions

• What it takes to be a great partner to his wife and how they share responsibilities

• What it means to be truly present in parenting

• The concept of "no magic pill" when it comes to raising kids

• How your kids are motivators, not excuses

• How to instill values, ethics and a sense of purpose in your children

• Tobi's lessons learned from living life very publicly on social media

• A "typical day" when raising six kids

• Rapid fire!

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Where to find Tobi Emonts-Holley:

• Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/tobi_emonts

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tobi-emonts-holley-62382a292/

• Tobi’s Newsletter: https://forgingbalance.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

• Newsletter: http://startupdadpod.substack.com

• Newsletter: http://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/

• Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

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In this episode, we cover:

[1:48] Welcome Tobi!

[2:18] His background

[4:18] Tobi's family and childhood

[7:42] Being an only child vs. having 6 kids

[9:31] All about Tobi's wife

[11:53] All about Tobi's kids

[14:29] How he knew he was ready for marriage at 22

[17:28] Their decision to start a family at a young age

[19:04] There's "no magic pill"

[21:57] Tobi's online mistake

[28:32] His earliest memory of being a dad

[31:08] Why kids are motivators not excuses

[35:13] What you give up up to be a dad

[37:01] Most surprising thing about being a dad

[38:30] His favorite books to read his kids

[39:49] Least favorite book

[40:53] Why memories trump possessions

[43:32] Parenting frameworks

[46:06] Daily schedule for a Dad of 6

[50:22] Where he and his partner don’t agree

[52:18] Mistakes made as a dad

[54:13] Follow Tobi

[55:32] Rapid fire

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Show references:

How I discovered Tobi -  https://twitter.com/tobi_emonts/status/1690712460334948353

Tiphereth - https://www.tiphereth.org.uk/

The Hobbit - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/5907.The_Hobbit

Warrior Kid Book Series - https://www.warriorkid.com/warrior-kid-book-series

Paw Patrol - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/PAW_Patrol

Cheaper by the Dozen - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0349205/

Father of the Bride - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0101862/

The Steering Wheel Tray - https://www.amazon.com/XERGUR-Steering-Headrest-Eating-Writing/dp/B07Z92Y8JV

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Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at

http://www.armaziproductions.com/

Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/